A close friend recently asked me what it was like to be married and if I had any advice for their own wedding. My honest answer was - being married is exactly the same as before. To some that might seem like a paradox, completely absurd or indicatively sad. But to me, it's just right. I've been lucky enough to have Chris in my life for 8 years, and over that time we've experienced the rollercoaster of life - our wedding was a celebration of everything we've accomplished thus far and a toast to the adventures of the future. However, planning one hell of a big party doesn't come without its ups and downs, and it's at this point I should warn that if you have come to this blog post with hopes of wedding stationery tips and where to go dress shopping, I'm afraid that isn't what this post will entail.
Throughout the wedding planning process, my mantra was 'as long as Chris is there, the rest is a bonus' and it gave me a reality check at any possible bridezilla moments. But truth be told, on reflection that isn't quite right. Marrying the love of your life is obviously the pinnacle of a wedding, after all, what's a wedding without a marriage? However, the love and support of friends and family throughout our engagement and on the big day are right up there too. Without them by my side, there may well have been a few tantrums.
So, here are a newly-wedded person's advice on getting married;
Firstly, indulge in whatever planning a wedding means to you, but make sure you're surrounded by the ones you love throughout. If you want to watch endless wedding movies with a scrapbook and pile of wedding mags - well you go girlfriend, this is the only time you're allowed to do so without questioning looks. But if the thought of wedding dress shopping is enough to go full Britney Spears 2007 then back away from the racks, pour a glass of wine and buy your fave dress online. Whatever the process looks like for you, having loved ones close by to relish in the good moments, and console you in the tougher ones makes it all the better.
Secondly, on the big day spend a few minutes taking it all in. Our Reverend asked us to stop after we finished the ceremony and look out to those who had gathered to witness our vows and take a moment to remember it all. Looking out and seeing my Grandma's face smiling back is a special thing to hold on to. It goes in the blink of an eye but soaking it all in and being present means you get to savour every drop of wedded bliss.
And that is it! Planning a wedding is a big gig, but it's a fun one with the right people around you.
If you're in the mood for a stickybeak at our wedding, please have a look at our brilliant wedding photographer CJ William's blog post here.
Some of our standout vendors are below.
Holly's Dress & Veil: Harriette Gordon
Makeup: Jacqui Bradfield
Hair: Melissa Piscioneri from Flawless Hair & Essentials
Photographer: Carly Williams, CJ Photography
Cinematographer: Weddings by Story One
Florist: Plumm Wood
Ceremony venue: All Saints Church, Henley Brook
Reception venue: Padbury’s Restaurant