What is The Boyfriend Shirt?
What is The Boyfriend Shirt?

Tinder and the Art of Seduction.

A few weeks ago some friends and I sat down over too many bottles of wine and throughout the course of the evening persuaded one friend to download Tinder. In the spirit of full disclosure my friend is stunning and not in the 'pretty because they are your friend' way - I'm talking full on babe town. With a sassy profile written courtesy of the drunker ones in the group (i.e. me) we happily started swiping away on her behalf and the matches, conversation and dinner invites started rolling in.

While this was all very exciting and flattering I have also watched every episode of Catfish and the whole process sat kind of strangely with me. Having met my husband the old fashioned way (drunk in a pub) I wondered if Tinder was the end of romance and if "hey, u up?" was the new love letter. We sat at the table constructing witty replies to the half dozen or so men interested in getting to know my friend a little better and it just seemed so shallow, for entertainment purposes rather than for making a real connection. At least when you are at a bar you know he isn't throwing out 6 simultaneous "Hey Girl" lines while chatting to you.

However the more I thought about it the more I came around. We live in a digital age where we never really switch off. The 9 - 5 work day is a distant memory for pretty much every person my age and the spare time we have is usually spent with people we already know and love, rather than meeting new people in an societal pressure driven effort to 'put ourselves out there'.

Surely what Tinder and its kind promote is a streamlined way to meet people and see if you spark before you commit to actually spending face to face time. While a Tinder swipe is mainly based on appearance and is a little shallow, so to is approaching a stranger while out to chat and arguably "netflix and chill?" is just a modern day "The Flea" by John Donne.

So, really, in an age where we strive to be more time efficient in all areas of our life what if Tinder is less of a end of romance and more just a modernisation of same? You still might have to go through a lot of frogs to find your prince charming but at least you can do it in the comfort of your pyjamas, on your couch, with a tub of Nutella and friends - which is what Saturday nights are MEANT to be all about.

(Article Image Credit: Kai Ridley)

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